Beware! Abstain from angering the parents

[Imran Rahat Shaikh]

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) says: "Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties with relatives will not be able to smell it."

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) says: "One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). One who angers both (mother and father) his parents (it is as if) he has angered Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him)."

Elsewhere, it is mentioned, "One who hurts his parents, hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him). And the one who hurts Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) is accursed."

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) has also stated: "Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) will not speak to three kinds of people on the day of judgement. Neither will He have mercy upon them, nor will He purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards and those who disobeyed their parents."

The wretchedness of the Aaq-e-Waledain is sufficiently evident from the fact that the trustworthy Jibreel (peace and blessings be upon him) has cursed him and said, "One who is blessed with parents but does not fulfill their (his parent's) rights will not be forgiven (his sins) by Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him)."

When Jibreel (peace and blessings be upon him) said this, The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) uttered, 'Amen'!


Imam Jafar Sadiq (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Accursed, Accursed is the one who beats his parents. Accursed is the one who distresses his parents."

Imam Jafar Sadiq (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) will not accept the Namaz of the person who stares angrily at his parents. Even though they (parents) may be unjust."

May Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) grant us the Divine success that we may come be regarded amongst those who have been good towards their parents. "O' Allah! Make us such that we may be grateful for the efforts of our parents." "O' Allah! Make us successful in bringing forth a generation of pure-hearted, believing, grateful and righteous individuals."

[Fiza]

As-Salaam-Alaikum,

Can someone please point me to the right direction and tell me where does it say in the quran or hadith that we have to bear with our extended families? Or we have to have tolerate our relatives for the rest of our lives? Please correct me if iam wrong but if we anger our parents that is something but if we refuse to mix with our relatives who have nothing better to do but to gossip and make your life miserable is it correct to say we see them once in a fortnight, say our salam and walk away is that too much to ask?

Thanks

[Farhakhan.Pathan]

 Asalamualekum sister fiza
I agreed to you that there are some sorts of relatives who make our life miserable
but If we look into quraan ul kareem Allah taabaaraka Wataala has given great Importance to sila rehmi
sila rehmi means that to behave at yours best with yours relatives .even when they curse u.
andin order to do this we have to become very soft hearted.This soft heartednees we can relate to our Nabi E kareem SwallahoAlaihi wassllam who bear all the misbehaviour done by his relatives even when he was on correct path.We are is true follower has to look upon him.
I can't say more abt this issue as the situation of each family is diffrent one thing that we can do to remain silent.there is saying in urdu ki Jo chup reh gaya usne nijaat paa li means the person who remain silent has overcome all sorts of miseries.
U know fiza I was a person with short tempered and got angered very easily but with slight practiceof remaining silence an non reacting nature I am able to control my anger to a greatest extent.

[Fiza]

Wa `Alaykum as-Salaam Sis Farah,

I can just imagine how sweet you are and I agree with what you said 100% but sometimes anger takes the better of me no matter how much I tell myself fiza have sabr/ patience but I hope Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala gives me sabr / patience so I can tolerate my relatives. Thank you sis.

Feaman Allah